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Top 8 Wedding Tips For Mothers Of The Bride Groom 

Since a wedding is a major occasion not only to the groom but also to his mother, it is of utmost importance that the mother does all what is necessary to make her son’s wedding a conspicuous success. The following top-8-wedding-tips-for-mothers-of-the-bride-groom are meant to help you, as a mother, achieve just that. 

1.  Do away with your own expectations

Every mother wants to have a say in her son’s wedding. However, too much input and expectations from you can cause him much stress and thus ruin his moment of happiness. Offering to assist in the things he might need will often earn you more invitations to help than when you try bulldozing him into doing what you want. If you give him all the freedom to say what happens and when, his big day will be hassle free. 

2. Discuss money matters with your son

It is essential to sit down with the groom-to-be and talk about wedding finances. Letting him know how much you are willing to contribute to his wedding budget will lighten his burden.

3. Get to meet and know the in-laws

It has been tradition that once the engagement has been announced, the groom’s parents reach out to their soon-to-be-in-laws. As a mother, it is important to fully support your son with plans of meeting the parents of your daughter-in-law to-be. This offers an excellent opportunity for both sets of parents to not only know each more but also discuss the wedding plans. The best option is to invite everyone for dinner at a nice but casual restaurant, where everyone will relax. That way, no one will feel the stress and pressure of playing host. 

4. Allow the bride’s mother pick her dress first

Customarily, the bride’s mother chooses her dress first and then lets the groom’s mother know the color, style and length so she can choose a complimentary dress. As the groom’s mother, don’t try to change the drill and while choosing the dress colors, consult the bride and keep the wedding photos in mind. 

5.  Assess the guest list

Find out the expectations of the groom-to-be for the guest list and your reasonable input to it, bearing in mind that parents of the bride-to-be will also want to contribute. Draw up the guest list for the groom’s side only after knowing the number of guests you are allowed to invite. 

6. Back up your son and daughter-in-law at the wedding

The wedding guests can sometimes be a little demanding such as wanting extra serving at the reception or to perform a solo at the wedding. As the groom’s mother, you should handle the guests’ complaints tactfully by making them feel better while at the same time not giving in to their pushy pleas.

7. Be discreet

Should you happen not to like someone or a particular element of the wedding, just keep it to yourself. Letting it out may cause it to reach unintended persons and thus cast a shadow on the wedding occasion. 

8. Present a sentimental gift

Besides helping pay for expenses such as the rehearsal dinner, engagement rings or the honeymoon, it is worthy to give your son and daughter-in-law a sentimental gift like a family heirloom as one way of welcoming the bride into the family.