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Reasons Why You Should Get Married Before 30

Innumerable books, magazines, articles and opinions have been written, strongly advising against marrying before age 30. Most probably, you have come across such information which made you wonder whether marrying before 30 was out rightly disastrous. You might also have questioned whether marriage bliss was guaranteed if you married after 30. It is therefore frustrating when you cannot get substantial information crediting marrying before 30 and yet, a host of credible supporting arguments exist. Well, here you are. You need look no further.

1. You are most fertile before 30

If you are a woman, there is a big difference between your ability to get pregnant in your twenties and thirties.  Your 20s are your most fertile years. If you desire to have more than one child, don’t wait until you are thirty to get married. According to fertility experts, your chances of getting pregnant in your early 30s are slightly lower than in your 20s, with your risk of a miscarriage or getting a baby with Down syndrome being slightly higher.   As women age, chances of pregnancy-complications slowly increase and so do miscarriages. A woman in her early, mid or late 20s is less likely to have an ectopic pregnancy as compared to one in her 30s.  

For men, the peak level of testosterone secretion remains fairly high as you approach 30. However, its level declines by 1-3 percent per year thereafter, which may lead to muscle wasting, reduced strength and sexual libido.  This may, in turn, arouse the temptation to use testosterone supplements which could be risky. 

2. The need to plan your life

 

Time goes by so fast which is why you ought to plan your life well. You need to marry before 30 so as to have your children earlier than later. You will not only have a higher chance of getting healthy children, but also ample time to engage in other things in life such as pursuing your education or settling in your career. You will be on track if you marry, say, between ages 24 and 28 and start having kids immediately. By the time you are in your mid 40s, they will already be out of high school or on their way out. In your mid fifties, they will most likely be out of your house and probably, you will be a grandparent. You do not want your child to graduate from high school when you are in your 60s. As you can see, it is very important to do your calculations in order to ensure your future and that of your kids is perfectly planned. 

3. Life is short

You only have one life to live and there is no guarantee of how long it will be. Pessimism aside, it could be less than 30 years or slightly higher. Thus, using age 30 as a benchmark for marriage and other achievements could be an illusion. It’s an arbitrary goal which may be a setup for failure. Those who vigorously advocate for marrying after attaining the age of thirty cite reasons such as the need to mature completely, accumulate lots of money or acquire some property, and explore what other men and women are like before committing to one individual, among others. Although these things are somehow important, they are not mandatory in marriage. If you have someone who genuinely loves you, totally supports, understands and respects you before you are 30, then most likely he or she is your right match. What reservations would you have for waiting until you are 30 to settle down with such a person? You might even lose him or her while waiting!

4. The need to cut costs

The necessity to reduce costs rises steadily as one grows older, although it may vary for different persons depending on their level of income.  By marrying before 30, you will get a chance to pool your limited assets and have encouragement during vulnerable times in your life. It is a fact that two people can live more cheaply as compared to one. For example, it takes more heating oil to warm two lonely bedrooms than it does to warm the bedroom of a pair of young lovers. Tying the knot before 30 therefore enhances your wellbeing not just financially but also emotionally as you will have a shoulder to lean on, which makes life a little easier and cheaper.

5. Marrying early wads off many temptations

The probability of giving in to numerous life’s temptations is higher during your earlier stages of life as compared to later ones. Settling down is one way of wadding off such temptations.  If, for instance, you can’t control yourself in regard to premarital sex, it is wiser to marry as soon as possible than expose yourself to life threatening dangers. Even the Bible recommends one to marry rather than burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). By marrying, you will be saving yourself a lot of trouble. You don’t have to wait until you are thirty to do that.

Insurance rates will also confirm to you that married people go on with their lives a little more carefully. They care more about the future and are therefore less likely to engage in reckless behavior such as careless driving, wanton sex and so on.

6. Your dating poll shrinks as you age

Time waits for no one. Right now, you are probably so preoccupied with your life that before you realize it, you will have hit 30 years and above. You will certainly start getting worried upon realizing that fewer people of the opposite sex seem to be interested in you than before.  This is because the older you get, the more your dating poll shrinks and the more desperate you are likely to become.

Don’t be so engrossed in having fun, dating and doing all sort of things save marrying before 30, oblivious that the older you get, the less fertile you become and the less likely you will marry. Furthermore, it is easier to adapt to new situations such as adjusting to a potentially excellent partner who does not quite fit into the life you’ve created for yourself, when you are young than when you are old. You don’t want to turn into a perpetual waiting bee!